“Rejoice greatly, O Daughter of Zion… Behold, your King is coming to you!”
Do you believe those words that reign true in Zechariah 9:9? In your moments of loneliness, feelings of insecurity and questions about love’s existence, do you really believe that a King of all kings is coming especially for you, oh Daughter?
To be honest, singleness has not given me reason to believe this in the last 4 and a half years. My beliefs about being a single woman have been tainted by pressures from society and conversations with people who push relationships heavily. There’s something about being in a relationship that is comforting. It’s safe, it’s normal, and it’s the essence of true love that almost everyone longs for.
But I desperately want to share today a sentence that might go against everything you’ve been taught or have heard… Being single is OKAY.
I didn’t have a boyfriend at all during my college years. While I did have many moments of self-doubt and longings for intimacy, and a few hopeful relationships that never flourished, I realized an essential thing in my singleness: The desires of my heart were for a relationship with Christ, not one with man.
Isaiah 26:8 plainly states that the desires of our soul are for His name! What a beautiful truth to revel in… Because in the midst of friends taking their dates to formals and going on beach trips with significant others, I’ve often been overwhelmed by a spirit of inadequacy. I selfishly and enviously will proclaim to myself, “Why can’t I have that, God??”
If I’m being honest, these thought patterns continued until about a year ago when something vital was revealed to me in my walk with the Lord. I had just returned home from one of several mission trips in that year, and I was going into my senior year of college.
My heart for the world and international development had grown so much that I crafted a detailed business idea I actually plan to start one day. My time spent with the Lord grew more intimate and personal. I began seeing Jesus in every human, no matter their race or background… I was changing because of the things God allowed me to experience on my own, in my singleness.
I started to ponder if I had been in a relationship with a man, would my relationship with the Lord have grown in this same way? Would my passion for loving people and shining Christ’s light to the ends of the earth have deeply developed in the way they have now? The truthful answer is, I have no clue. I do know that in my singleness, God drew me closer to Him.
If you hear me say anything in this writing, I want you to know that God created relationships between man and woman to honor Him. Dating and marriage are good things. In no way am I suggesting we all should be single! What I am feeling led to say is that you can find joy in your singleness if you intentionally seek the Lord for love and acceptance.
YOU have ravished God’s heart at His first glance upon you. He created you, and He loves you. There is NO human on this earth that can measure up to the love God bestows on you.
Loved daughters, whether you are single, dating or married, I pray today that God will reveal to you how enormous His adoration of you truly is and that His love for you will never end (Jeremiah 31:3). I pray that you will know without a shadow of a doubt that nothing can separate you from the love of Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 8:37-39). I pray that even with the pressures of society, friends and family, you will embrace that you are enough because you are His – not because you have a boyfriend or cute Instagram pictures with an attractive guy.
If you have Him, you have everything (John 14:8). Let us join hands and chase the one who designed our very beings. Let us trust that He will divinely orchestrate the storyline of our lives.