I think more than anything else in this world, we crave love. We crave the feeling of being known, seen, and sure. A huge part of that comes from friendships. As we get older, though, the type of friendships that we need change. I remember being little, and my friends and I being so mean to each other. Growing up, girls do not get much better… let’s just say middle school and high school was rough for me. Being in college, I wanted to surround myself with a group of women who are strong, independent, driven, creative, magical, and most importantly, Christ-centered.
The Bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what can righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness (NIV)?”
[Side note: I am not telling you to write off any friend in your life who may be an unbeliever. As a growing Christian woman, we are to grow the faith, and make disciples. Yet, your core group of friends- your “people”-should be women who are running after the same things. They should be women who are striving for goodness, peace, gentleness, self-control, and who love fiercely. They should be women who if you look side to side in your walk with God, they’re cheering you on and handing you the cups of water to refresh your weary soul. We need to find the people who make us better, and who challenge us to be the best version of ourselves.]
So, how do we find these people? Luckily, I have been blessed with some great friends – Godly girls who push me and ask me the hard questions, but that did not happen overnight. I have prayed and prayed for years for God to put the right people in my path, and for me to seize opportunities when they approach. I have prayed fiercely to find the people who do not cause me to stumble, but who love me enough to call me out on things. I pray for people who won’t make my mistakes seem like failures, but who also won’t let me settle for a mediocre walk with Christ.
This is a hard balance to find, and it may seem hard if you have been burned by a lot of people – women, especially. Women can bring out their claws very quickly, and sometimes, to be honest, it is hard to be friends with women. Yet, if you pray for God to surround your heart and life with people who want the best for you, I believe He honors our feeble attempts at trying to start anew.
If you haven’t found these kindred spirits in your life, pray and ask for your eyes to be opened to people who may be nothing like you. Pray for people to come into your life in a way that could only be of God. And pray for them to shake up your world, and challenge you to be a better woman.
I will be praying for you too, sister. You’ll find them. And you’ll be that person for someone else, too.
All my love,