In my opinion, prayer is one of the most misunderstood things when it comes to a relationship with God.
A lot of us do not know how to pray, what to ask for when we work up the courage to pray, or how to talk to God; we feel like we are doing it wrong. And sometimes, a lot of us may be so overwhelmed with how much we have going on that we do not even know where to start when we do take time to pray.
I am no prayer expert by any means, but I would like to share some ways that my personal prayer life has changed, and how that has totally changed my relationship with the Lord.
When I went off to college, an older girl started to disciple me. She held me accountable (along with another girl my age), prayed for me, prayed with me, and encouraged me in the faith. We weren’t just in a discipleship group together — we were praying through life together. I had never really experienced anything like this, but it opened my prayer world up to a whole new dimension. I firmly believe that one of the purest forms of love is when someone prays for you, and you pray for them. You’re literally lifting them up to the Lord — isn’t that cool?
Something both of the girls in my discipleship group did was keep a prayer journal. I had always jotted down notes in church, but it never went much further than that. If you’re reading this and feel totally lost, stop what you are doing right now and go buy a small journal. When I started to write down my prayers, my view of my relationship with the Lord changed. You can flip back through and have a clear visual of how He has, or hasn’t, answered prayers. The Lord has proved to be so faithful to me through this practice.
Sometimes His answers to my prayers have been a clear “yes.” Sometimes they have been a firm “no.” Sometimes they have been a vague “maybe later.” But in each answer, He is still good (and sometimes — most of the time — I thank God for unanswered prayers).
Some days I just honestly don’t know what to pray for. I am so emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually tired. One of my favorite verses is Romans 8:26,
“And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in word “(NLT).”
When we don’t know what to pray for anymore, the Bible tells us that the Spirit intercedes and prays for us. He is there in the deepest despair of our hearts, and He prays for us.
He knows what we need even before we ask, but He still wants to hear. We often forget that prayer is a privilege. It is our direct line to God. So, build upon this. Don’t make it into an obligation — just work on it as a relationship. He is listening, and He is faithful.
All my love and prayers to you, sister.